Don’t push your way into the painful past
EFT is wonderful at tapping away your painful past. Because Pro EFT™ is so effective you may be tempted to push yourself or your client into the painful memories. This very bad idea is based on the belief that your current problems are because of your first trauma. We reason that A led to B which led to C which must be causing our problem D. The logical and linear solution is to go back to the trauma and fix the original cause. As practitioners we run the risk of causing the client to suffer yet another trauma. Neutralizing your painful past with Pro EFT™ requires being receptive and gentle. This is true whether we are tapping on ourselves or with a client in a session.
Human biology is much more complex than our theories
A classic mistake in science is to make believe we know the whole picture. When people get caught up in categorical thinking they often end up causing great harm. It is very important to keep in mind that what we think we know is always a portion of what really exists. The 100 billion or so neurons in our brain may have up to 200,000 connections for each neuron. The possible ways they may be connecting is beyond human comprehension. In truth we don’t know. Tapping is journey of discovery that is quite unique to every person.
Allow the story to unfold on its own
I have helped clients tap down being traumatized by some expert more times than I can count. The expert had them re experience their trauma which was supposed to help them move on. It is way better to let the story unfold on its own. Gently neutralizing your painful past with Pro EFT™ is the best option for tapping down through the layers. The unconscious mind will tell you what you need to tap on and when you need to tap on it.
Start by tapping down what the client wanted to work on
When a client wants to eliminate a dysfunctional reaction, I don’t ask where it came from. We tap on the thoughts, emotions, reactions, and body sensations they are experiencing now. Searching for the oldest painful experience runs the risk of becoming a new painful event. Our goal is to relieve and eliminate feeling awful, not conquering our past experiences. Tapping away the metaphorical layers of the onion will reveal what ever it is that needs be tapped on.
The unconscious mind links things together in multiple ways
Linear time lines are great for the conscious mind to intellectually explain things. In the unconscious mind, the time lines don’t necessarily connect in chronological order. The connections are not always logical. For example, I had a client tapping on her own personal income glass ceiling. Spontaneously she mentioned her fear of snakes during the process. We put the fear of snakes reaction into the tapping dialogue about the glass ceiling problem. Several years later she mentioned that she had nearly stepped on a snake and felt no fear at all. The snake was slithering away as fast as it could. In her unconscious mind, the fear of snakes was linked to her fear of success. Now both fears are gone. We didn’t have to relive some now forgotten trauma around snakes.
Empower the client to choose to work on something later
As your issues come up the well trained practitioner may want to finish them off now. The urge comes up to follow those steps just like in the training. When the person tapping doesn’t want to go there, gently back out. Promise the part that is hurting that we will return, when we are ready. Teach yourself and your clients that you can go as far as you want, for as long as you want. We are empowering ourselves to be in charge of the one person we can be in charge of, ourselves! Neutralizing your painful past with Pro EFT™ is a gentle with high effectiveness practice.
Get help when you need it
If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced Pro EFT™ practitioner.
Wishing you the best tapping success ever,
Bill